We choose how our lives pan out.

Yes it’s true and I know a lot of people will find this hard to accept, because when things go wrong it is infinitely more satisfying to blame some body else or some invisible force beyond our control for our misfortunes, rather than face the truth.

Somehow I find it very comforting to know that whatever perceived difficulties I go through in life are entirely due to my thoughts and actions. Now there are some major human challenges and changes in our lives that have been brought into existence by our own volition before we arrived into this dimension but I believe that even they can be made more acceptable by how we see them.

There is a greater understanding to be achieved here before this sense of dilution of life’s traumas can occur. We need to understand that we humans are the ones that have labelled everything and have brought duality into existence. Good, bad, difficult, easy, right, wrong….. all perceptions in the mind of how we see these dualities. That is all they are though, perceptions.

Our souls see everything as an experience, without labels and accepts and even relishes each one, because that is why the soul returns to this dimension in physical form time after time, to gather as many experiences as possible so that we may progress along our path and reach a stage where we no longer need to learn from this earthly plane. To see everything from this soul perspective can greatly ease the discomfort of life’s drama.

When something unwanted comes into our lives, it is generally because we have been thinking negatively and drawing all sorts of stressful scenarios our way. I know it is part of being human to feel negative thoughts and emotions at times but it is important to check ourselves before we head into a complete spiral of negativity that can last weeks and even years. This is a place that can feel very familiar and even comforting to a lot of us and then we wonder why our lives are not going in the direction that we would like.  By being aware of our thoughts and steering them in a more positive direction can really alter how our everyday lives turn out. Also by seeing things from the soul’s approach and knowing that everything we struggle with in life is just a learning experience, and if we could try to gain as much insight as possible from each experience, then it will make living and being on planet earth much more manageable. 🙂

The Slightly Psychotic Ramblings Of A Fundamental Depressant.

It’s all an illusion. I know that, but sometimes that awareness doesn’t help. I get the whole concept of non reality, I really do but when I mentally go down to the very depths of my being and see this illusionary world as bleak and futile, I have to settle down and try to get as comfortable as possible with the darkness for a while before I can begin the climb back up again.

I have realised that when I am down in the dark recesses of my despair, it helps to write about it. By putting the whole process in print, for me, is cathartic. I have always turned to the pen in times of despair. (It) helps to still the mind chatter and concentrate on what I am feeling and eventually writing, which unravels the pain sequence like untangling last January’s hastily stored Christmas lights before they go on the December tree.

I like to call what I am experiencing right now as fundamental depression. I have had it for as long as I can remember. It is a feeling of complete desolation that creeps up on me, on a regular basis, irrespective of outside influences. It has been with me all of my human life. I can remember feeling like this when I was as young as four years old and wondering how I could get back to this other place. A place I considered to be my real home. As the late and very brilliant John O Donoghue writes in his beautiful book, ‘Eternal Echoes, Exploring our hunger to belong’, ‘You are from somewhere else, where you were known, embraced and sheltered’. The place this writer describes is the other world where we all originated and will return to once we leave our physical bodies.

Most people fear this seperation of body and soul because they cannot remember the beauty they left behind to come here. I have a deep soul knowledge that ‘home’ is worth going back to, eventually.

Once when I was around four and a half I remember hearing my Aunt tell my Mother about these amazing sleeping tablets that helped her to obtain a very peaceful night’s sleep and she proceeded to take them from her handbag to show my Mother. When they had left the room I reached into my Aunt’s handbag and took as many of these pills as I could fit in my mouth. They tasted horrible but I swallowed them non the less as I felt sure that they were my ticket back ‘home’. Fortunately for me my Mother found me and I was taken immediately to the local hospital where I was pumped out. I tried the tablet route twice more with the same consequences. Needless to say, I know I came into this lifetime kicking and screaming! It took me quite a while to realise that I was here for a reason, just like everybody else on the planet.

This longing still grips me though out of the blue and when I least expect it. I can feel it in my DNA and every cell in my body as well as my psyche. I know that we choose to come to this dimension though which helps. We came to experience life in all its glory and gather a greater understanding of what we really are, which is beings of complete love. However when I am in my dark place, this realisation barely consoles although slowly but surely the awareness of the fact that what I am feeling is a type of homesickness does start to pull me up and out.

Please don’t misunderstand me when I describe the reason for my personal depression. I am very aware that there are so many people out there with different and very debilitating types of depression that last a lifetime as opposed to my variety that is always in the background but only comes to the forefront and causes me to suffer intermittently. In saying that I think that people with depression are highly sensitive and find it more difficult to interact properly in this world and inadvertently take on all the negative energy going on around them which contributes greatly to how they are feeling.

Even though I have a loneliness for something much bigger than I can properly describe, I know that living my life here on earth is the only place that I want to be for now and I relish every day, even the dark ones. JBH 🙂